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I honestly try to NOT say disparaging words about my STBX (Soon To Be eX) . I truly do. I can’t shut up about this one. I want the whole world to know my STBX is a selfish bitch. Period. There is no “oh there are two sides to every story” no “well I’m sure you’re not perfect, Steve.” She is selfish and controlling and manipulating and has NO regard for our children. Period. Earlier this week my best friend (of 27 years) invited me to his granddaughter, Tayler’s, birthday. It is this coming Sunday. I do not have visitation with my kids this Sunday so I politely asked the STBX if I could take our 3 year old daughter, Zoe to the party. I’d be gone for maybe 3 hours. She said no. It is not just that she said no, but how she says it… here is our email conversation – yes I added emphasis and comments, sorry had to. Oh AND this is after I let her take the kids to a birthday party last weekedn… on MY WEEKEND!! ME: Zoe has been invited to a birthday party at 1:00 on Sunday. I'd like to pick her up 12:30 and I'll have her back as soon as the party is over - plus 30 minutes for drive-time.
STBX: No
ME: Awesome... thanks so much. I let you take them Saturday and now you don't reciprocate. So you wonder why I never want you to take my time away... you NEVER give it back.
STBX: So Zoe will not be going to the party on Sunday I take it, because unless I go she won't be going.
ME: How can you do this? I let you take them Saturday. You NEVER reciprocate. NEVER. You wonder why I hate you SO much? Because you are a mean heartless bitch. You'd better never ask for time on my weekends again. Period.
STBX: I guess I should email your lawyer that you won't let me have the kids for their aunt's birthday then which happens to be on your weekend since we know you won't want to go to a family party. You see I am not forbidding Zoe to go to this party I just want to go with and I have every right to attend (every RIGHT… these are MY friends NOT yours. Wait – you don’t HAVE any friends. Wonder why?)
ME: You ARE NOT INVITED! Jesus so YOU ARE preventing Zoe from going. You can rationalize anything!
STBX: Besides is there really a party because I haven't seen any invitation? So I guess Zoe will miss out and be none the wiser since she didn't know about it to begin with. But she will know about her aunt’s party and she will not want to miss that. (what a manipulative BITCH!)
ME: You are not invited Brenda. Period. You are such a horrible parent. Who would do that to their daughter?
STBX: Where is the invitation and was it addressed to Zoe? Since she is with me I have every right to go. They will NOT be there unless I am with them. So you can make up any lie you want to I don't really care or you can be the bigger person. Without me there will be no party for our kids.
ME: OMG you don't even realize how selfish this sounds! I can’t even begin to fathom the type of parent who would manipulate their sweet innocent 3 year old daughter in such a way. It is sickening. I just want to puke. She wonders why I left and why I want a divorce? WOW. Wake up and smell the coffee! How can I prevent this? How can I make my STBX see what she is doing is wrong? I really think she has mental problems. This just isn’t right. I’m at my wit’s end.
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